Workin it

Anyone else over worked and under paid by comparison to the way things were in the before time?

I’ve been lucky in that I have been able to keep my job through the worst of times. I was even able to switch to a new job when I felt the need to move on with my career. Despite this I am still somewhat hesitant to dip my feet too heavily into that job pool. I think that employers know this too as they are keeping some of the habits they developed over the recession. I am finding that many of my peers were doing more work for less pay during the hard times. This seems to be only exasperated by the fact that people are scared to leave poor working conditions. Research conducted in Europe found that “Some 62% said they are willing to put a great deal of effort beyond what is normally expected to help their organization be successful and only 12% are actively looking for another job. However, only 39% believe their senior leaders are trustworthy and 30% believe their organizations did not treat their employees fairly in the last 12 months.”

How can we fix the whole problem? The simple answer comes from the employers. Start your hiring. The economy has really picked up and the time has come to deliver more employee confidence. Let me give you an example of what not to do. Recently at my facility one of the senior management left for a job at a different firm. Normally this would cause a trickle down effect causing people to move up in their careers. However, my firm decided not to replace him. Instead they though it best to move his responsibilities down to his subordinates who would then move some of their responsibilities down etc. Now we all have more work to do at the same wage AND NO HOPE TO MOVE UP! This shows that they don’t want to encourage career growth instead want to encourage more stress on an already over stressed population.

Iconic Figures

I have found that my boys are very drawn to the same iconic children’s figures that I had in my youth. Sure there are some new ones like… Ummm Lightning McQueen? Seriously, we had Winnie the Pooh, The Looney Toons, Thomas the Tank Engine, etc… Come to think of it those characters were even before my time. They were my parent’s icons. My generation had The Lion King, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Transformers. When it really comes down to it does it seem like we are losing the development of these characters? Is this because the ones that were previously developed were so iconic or is it because we are starting to lose our creativity because we watch too much television. It’s all very confusing. Here’s a picture to help ease your troubled mind. Yes this is my youngest with an icon.

Comfy little boy

Comfy little boy

Marriage Failure Rate

I think I may have figured out something regarding the high marriage failure rate; here in the US anyway. To explain my thought I’d like to first go back to my impression of my wife’s family and culture.

My wife is from China. When I first married her I was under the assumption that there were some differences between people of the Unites States and people from China, but overall we had the same basic human understanding of the world around us so the difference wouldn’t be too great. While some components of this are correct, for the most part my understanding was grossly inaccurate. When I first met her parents I did everything wrong, but the biggest thing I screwed up on was dismissing how important the family was in Chinese culture. It is my general understanding that in China you never dismiss your family. By this I mean that retirement homes are virtually non existent or when a child goes to college it is perfectly acceptable if not encouraged that they attend a university that is close to home.

To contrast Ive found that, at least with my family, we have very much said good by and good luck. If you ask my mother she might say something different, but this is the overall impression I’m left with.

To get to the point, I believe this stand alone complex we have is one of the things that discourages or inhibits longevity in marriage.It seems to me that relationships are easier to manage if there are outside parties helping the couple work through their differences. We have a lack of this in our relationship which is why it becomes very difficult at times. This seems to be especially true when children are introduced into a family. Overall, I just think people should support their friends and family more here in the States.

Cheers

The food thing

I didn’t think it would happen in my family but it did. Just like in A Christmas Story we have a child in our family that does not eat. Our oldest boy has had a hard time with eating since he was a baby. I remember at one point we tried to put food into a medicine syringe to try and force him to eat. That was defiantly a failure so I would not try doing that on your stubborn kids. Here is the worst of it all. I remember when I was a kid my mother would tell me “I’m going to send all your food to the starving kids in China.” I’m sure that I wasn’t the only one who say through that empty threat. Honestly, we all knew that a half eaten chicken would go bad by tomorrow and would never make the trip to China. Oh and the picture, he only took an hour to eat a half of a chicken breast. Believe me when I say that this is 100 times faster than what he was doing last year so we are making progress. Cheers!

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